Realistic Goals for Moms in the New Year
In the month of January, I came across a lot of talk about goals on many of the blogs or online publications I read. It got me thinking about my goals for this year. Actually, I started thinking about my goals at about 4 am one day while trying desperately to rock my still-doesn’t-sleep-through-the-night 15 month old back to sleep. Not just any goals, but mom goals. Those things I want to do and improve about my daily life as a mom this year.
One of my favorite quotes is by Robert Browning, “A man’s reach should exceed his grasp, or what’s a heaven for.” Or the old Italian proverb, “It is not enough to aim. You must hit.”
Having said that, the philosophy I based these goals on was more like, “No need to aim high. Just aim.” Feel free to quote that little nugget of wisdom in the future.
I don’t want to get too overwhelmed with these goals so I am only trying to achieve one of these per day. Not all of them. Unless I develop super powers sometime during 2017.
My Mom Goals for 2017
- Sleep for 8 uninterrupted hours. It would definitely help me achieve the other goals on this list.
- Wear the same outfit all day without getting spit on, peed on, pooped on, or used as a kleenex, or a napkin.
- Sit through an entire meal without once jumping up to get someone seconds, refill a juice cup or make an entirely new meal because the first one was “too yucky”.
- Read a book. A fun one, in no way related to the subjects of parenting, writing or self-improvement. Preferably one with half-naked people on the cover. Romance novels, baby!
- Sleep all night in my own bed with no kids in it
- Typing an email or a blog post without a kid on my lap reaching for the keyboard
- Exercise for 30 minutes without stopping to pick up a kid, resolve a sibling dispute, or re-trace my entire walk to find a dropped stuffed animal.
- Actually drink those 8 glasses of water I need to every day.
- Eat a lunch made just for me instead of just eating my kids’ leftovers.
- Finish a cookie or candy bar without hiding or sharing it. I just want to eat one by myself!
- Go on an outing with my kids without resorting to bribery in exchange for good behavior.
- Don’t yell.
- Make sure the underwear my one-year-old is always putting on her head is clean.
- Clean up the kitchen immediately after each meal.
- Find a place for all of my kids’ toys. And then actually put them away there.
- Figure out what we’re having for dinner before it’s ten minutes after I should’ve started cooking it.
- To read and delete the hundreds of parenting, writing, and self-improvement emails in my inbox that I am saving for the day I have time to read them. Or maybe I should just delete them.
- Overcome all my introvert instincts and attend one of the local mom groups, play groups, or story times instead of just thinking about it.
- Go to bed early and stop pretending my kids will sleep through the night when they never have before.
- Don’t make important parenting decisions based on how tired I am.
Wrap Up on Goals for Moms
I noticed a theme here. It’s probably because this idea occurred to me at 4 am. Basically, to sum up, in 2017, I want to SLEEP! And have 20 minutes to myself every day to read books and eat cookies. Like I said, I’m not aiming high. I’m just aiming.
What are your 2017 goals? Not the “Hike Everest” goals. But the little ones that would make your daily life better? Feel free to share them in the comments.