10 Ways I’m Rocking Motherhood

The Rocking Motherhood Challenge began as a way to help moms remember all the things that make us great mothers instead of constantly focusing on the areas where we fall short. All the moms I know are totally rocking motherhood, each in our own ways. I challenge each of you to add at least one way you are rocking motherhood in the comments for this post. Let’s hear what makes you rock mamas!

I was tagged to participate in the Rocking Motherhood Challenge by one of my favorite mom bloggers, Elizabeth Brico at www.bettysbattleground.com. I encourage you to check out her amazing blog about parenting with PTSD.

And to keep the challenge going, I tag fellow mom bloggers Sarah at This Awkward Mom, Liza at My Petite Picassos, Alicia at Adventures with My Littles, Allison at The Little One Chronicles, Nykkie at BobbieDaisy, and Meghna at Love, Life and the Little One to post their own 10 ways they are rocking motherhood.

10 Ways I Rock at Motherhood

1. I Take My Kids Outside Everyday

That’s right. I take my kids outside every single day. Even in winter. I believe fresh air and active play can improve just about anything going wrong with your day. And I believe all humans, especially the little ones, need to get outside at least once a day to be happy and healthy. On the rare days when extreme weather or illness keeps us from getting outside we all feel it in terms of added crankiness and crummy behavior. Getting outside isn’t always easy with little kids. It usually takes us as long to get ready as the amount of time we get to spend outside. But I make it a priority because it’s worth it.

2. I Let My Kids Make a Mess (Even When I Hate It!)

For me, mess equals stress. No one would call me a neatnik, I don’t mind a little clutter, but my kids create more than clutter, they create chaos. And some days it makes me want to tear out my hair. But my girls love their blanket forts, stuffed animal villages, Kinetic Sand, Play-Doh, art projects, and so many other disaster creating activities so much I can’t turn them down. Because those are all the things that are fun about being a kid.

3. I Say I’m Sorry

Sometimes I really screw-up. I overreact or raise my voice when my kids are misbehaving. When this happens, I tell my kids I’m sorry. Mama makes mistakes too and I will try to do better. I regret it when I lose it with my kiddos, always. And I want them to understand that everyone makes mistakes, including moms. It’s ok to make them. But it’s important to admit when you’re wrong and to try and do better.

4. I Read to My Kids Everyday

One of my favorite things we do every day is read. I read one-on-one with each of my kids as part of our bedtime routine. My youngest daughter gets a favorite board book. And my oldest gets a book of her choosing. My oldest daughter, in particular, looks forward to this every day. I enjoy spending time with each of my girls separately. And it’s one of the few times a day they let me hold them anymore. Reading is one of my favorite activities and I love that it’s something I can share with and hopefully pass on to my daughters.

5. We’re on a Schedule

I know some moms rock motherhood by just rolling with it and taking the day as it comes. I imagine these moms are calm and have laid back kids who can nap anywhere. I am not that mom. And that in no way describes my kids. No one who has ever spent time with any of us would use words like calm or laid back. My rambunctious littles and I are on a schedule. It’s not exactly minute by minute but every day does follow a pattern for eating, sleeping, and when we go outside. I like having my day planned. My kids thrive on routine. And we’re all happier with a schedule to follow.

6. I Keep the House Clean, Mostly

Some days it seems like the minute I get everything picked up, I turn around and someone emptied a dump truck of toys in my living room. It’s the only possible explanation for the mess. Days like that make housework seem like a thankless task. But I do my best to keep up with the cleaning and daily pick up of toys. For one thing, I’ve got some germ phobia to deal with and things have to be at least sanitary with kids. Secondly, keeping things mostly picked up gives my kids space to play, otherwise known as space to make a whole new mess the next day.

7. I Let Them Have Free Play

When it comes to playtime, I don’t micromanage. I love watching my kids play on their own. My oldest daughter has loved stuffed animals ever since she could hold one. To her they are real. She talks to them and creates elaborate worlds and storylines. I know all about them because I listen. But I don’t interfere. I think independence and the ability to entertain yourself are skills kids need to practice. It gives them room to stretch their imagination and not always depend on external sources of entertainment.

8. We Play Together

There is a time for independent play and then there is time for organized family fun. My husband and I both love board games. We’ve been teaching Ellie to play since she was two or three with age appropriate games. It gets us all playing together as a family. And playing together teaches listening, following rules, and taking turns. When Ellie was a baby and now with my youngest, we play peek-a-boo and patty cake and all the baby game silliness I miss so much when they outgrow it. And now that she’s a little older Abby loves joining in a dance party or game of hide and seek with her sister and me.

9. I Try to Say Yes as Much as Possible

There are a lot of rules when you’re a kid. And it can seem like everyone is always telling you no. So I try to say yes as much as possible. Even if what they want isn’t my first choice of activity or toy. If there is no compelling reason to say no, I try to let my kids have what they want or do things they like. I am not talking about spoiling them with endless piles of toys. I’m talking about eating ice cream for a snack. Or having a flashlight at bedtime. Or as I’ve mentioned, letting them make a mess. Little indulgences that bring lots of joy.

10. Love, Love, Love

I love my girls so much. I’ve built our lives around that love so they are always surrounded by it. And I try to tell them and show them every chance I get that they are loved, loved, loved by their mom and their family.

How are You Rocking Motherhood?

Let’s hear from you, mamas! Tell me how you’re rocking motherhood in the comments below! And if you would like to join the Rocking Motherhood Challenge with your own blog, check out the rules here to get you started.

32 Comments

  1. These are definitely great ways to rock motherhood! What a fun post. 🙂

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    1. Elizabeth
      March 9, 2017

      Thank you! It was fun to write:) Have you done this on your blog? If so, feel free to add the link in the comments.

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  2. Jessica Currier
    March 9, 2017

    I rock at motherhood cause I include my kids into cooking and helping around the house and build up their self worth!

    I loved this article!!!!! You Rock Liz 🙂

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    1. Elizabeth
      March 9, 2017

      Those are great ways to rock motherhood! I love including kiddos in cooking.

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    2. Laurie
      March 9, 2017

      You are an awesome Rockin Mama Jess! You give your kids such a wide variety of experiences. Love how you include your kids in your interests as well as their own. ❤️

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      1. Jessica Currier
        March 9, 2017

        Thanks what can I say I learned from the best mom 🙂

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  3. Hannah
    March 9, 2017

    I did this challenge too and I had similar answer especially the letting them make a mess even though I hate it 🙂

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    1. Elizabeth
      March 9, 2017

      I’m glad to know I’m not the only mom who hates messes!

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  4. Laurie
    March 9, 2017

    Liz, I think you do Rock parenting! You can never go wrong with LOVE, LOVE , LOVE. Building your family around love is everything!
    You Rock! So rock on mama ?❤️

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    1. Elizabeth
      March 10, 2017

      Thank you:)

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  5. Elizabeth Brico
    March 9, 2017

    Aw, thanks for the shout out. You definitely are rocking motherhood! I wish I could do the outside one every day…better about it in the summer but…you’re an awesome mama! I might have to copy your routine thing, I’ve been trying the wingin’ it thing and I’m not sure it’s working so well. <3

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    1. Elizabeth
      March 9, 2017

      I’m a person who likes to plan and know what to expect. When I try to “wing it” I’m more stressed than when I plan ahead and have a schedule. If anything I am sometimes too inflexible about the schedule, but it works for us. I know outside can be hard. I’m in Oregon so rain, rain, rain (I think you’re in the Pacific NW too, right?) I can’t wait for summer!!!

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  6. Nykkie
    March 9, 2017

    I love your ways you rock as a mom. You are pretty similar to me and my mothering style, but I am not currently on a schedule .

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    1. Elizabeth
      March 9, 2017

      I used to have a home daycare so I found creating a schedule was the only way to get everyone down for a nap at the same time. I needed the break, so I made it a priority. I love being able to plan my day around a set schedule:)

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  7. I love these! Especially the reading aloud every day. It is so important and such a special tradition.

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    1. Elizabeth
      March 9, 2017

      I love the reading aloud part of our day. I have always been a big reader and I want my girls to love books as much as I do! That’s one reason I love your website to much:)

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  8. Tricia
    March 9, 2017

    I try to say yes as much as possible too. I’m not always great about it, but I really do try. You have a great list here and it sounds like you are an awesome mama!

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  9. David Elliott
    March 10, 2017

    Playing together with your kids is so important. I know I try to do that with my daughter. And I get trying to keep the house clean with kids. It’s challenging.

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  10. Liza
    March 10, 2017

    Awesome ways to rock motherhood!

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  11. Love all of these, but #9 is my favorite! It can get easy to get stuck in the cycle of saying “no”. If we allow children to explore and follow their interests they can learn so much!

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  12. justine
    March 10, 2017

    WAY TO BE!!!!!
    my kids think I’m THE WORST when I make them unplug and go outside. haha! “son go ride your bike” and I get huffs and puffs as a response! Whatever though, they’ll thank me later for it.
    i lOOOOVE how you said “saying sorry”. As a parent we feel like we need to the “authority figures” and we need to be all high and mighty and we can’t mess up in front of our kids or else they won’t respect us. But that’s totally not the case. letting your kids see your mess ups, seeing you get vulnerable then assess and fix the situation will help them build respect for you instead of parents just demanding it!
    I’m rocking motherhood at the moment because my two boys have pink eye and i don’t have it! yay! #donttouchme

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  13. Caitlin
    March 10, 2017

    Awesome post! It’s great to take a step back and think about how we are rocking as moms! Your list looks it could be mine, especially the going outside part! I completely agree and loved reading 🙂

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  14. Katie Howard
    March 10, 2017

    Love these, especially the saying sorry when you make mistakes! That is so important, I think, to honoring the dignity of our children as people and establishing a safe space for our children to confess when they mess up, as well! You are doing an awesome job, mama!

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  15. Kate
    March 11, 2017

    I’ve been loving reading these rocking motherhood posts lately! I really love the ways you’re doing it too! Keep on rockin’ momma!

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  16. Stephanie Lowry
    March 11, 2017

    It is very evident that you are a great mother! So inspiring, #9 is my personal fav and I am now reminding myself to do this more!

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  17. You are one wonderful mother. Thank you for nominating me for this challenge. Will post my list soon!

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  18. Katie - Mommy Scene
    March 11, 2017

    Saying sorry is so important. We are not perfect and moms have such an influence in how kids’ view their own imperfection towards others. No one likes a person who can never admit when they are wrong. Also fresh air is amazing, even if it’s a bit hard to accomplish on some days. And we make lots of creative messes around here. 🙂

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  19. Jasmine Hewitt
    March 11, 2017

    Great post! you are totally rocking motherhood!

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  20. Melody
    March 13, 2017

    You are definitely rocking motherhood! I hope that I can be as confident in my parenting when a) my son gets older, and b) I have more than one child =)

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  21. Luz T
    March 14, 2017

    I can totally relate #3. I hate myself so much sometimes for raising my voice at my little boy or being rude to him. I often cry when I say sorry to him haha.

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  22. Amila Wickramarachchi
    March 28, 2017

    you are a rocking mom!You do many tasks daily.Though I read everyday with the kid,I don’t get time to go out with my kid.Thanks for sharing these ideas!

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  23. Kathy
    April 1, 2017

    Sounds like you are doing an awesome job! Thanks for sharing this encouraging post.

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